It is important to remember that dogs are not humans and cannot be expected to understand and respond to commands in the same way that humans do. Training a dog to listen and respond to commands requires patience, consistency, and positive reinforcement. Here are some tips for coaching yourself to be a leader that your dog will listen to:

1. Establish yourself as the leader: Dogs are pack animals and need a leader to follow. Establishing yourself as the leader of your household will help your dog understand their place in the pack and know who to listen to.

2. Use positive reinforcement: Reward your dog for good behavior with treats, praise, and affection. This will help your dog associate good behavior with positive reinforcement, making them more likely to repeat it in the future.

3. Use clear commands: Use simple, clear commands that your dog can understand. Use the same words and tone consistently to help your dog understand what you expect of them.

4. Practice consistency: It is important to be consistent in your training and expectations for your dog. If you allow your dog to do something one day and not the next, they may become confused and unsure of what is expected of them.

5. Be patient: Training a dog takes time and patience. Be patient with your dog and don’t expect them to learn everything overnight. It may take some time and repetition before your dog fully understands a new command or behavior.